Just the facts, Ma’am

I apologize in advance if this rambles a lot or has a lot of typos. It’s almost 4am and I can’t sleep. The meds I was taking to help me stay asleep have stopped working so I’ve stopped taking them. Once again I’m awake every night at exactly 3am…only I couldn’t get back to sleep this time. As I laid in bed, trying to will myself back to sleep, I got to thinking about several things. I’ve decided to put these things down here, in an effort to get them out of my brain.

1) I have to face the fact that I may very well lose my mother this time. Apparently she and my sister talked about a month or so ago about what would happen if she ever got cancer again – before she ever knew about this. My sister told her that she felt like she’d given it a good fight; she’d done all the treatments and it keeps coming back. If mom doesn’t want to do any treatments this time, my sister will not fight her on it. Mom already knew where I stand…in the same place I always do. I love my mother with all my heart and soul but I will not stand in the way of her decision. It is her choice and I will abide by it. I will not make it harder, I will not let her see how hard it is for me, I will not let her feel guilt for it. I will protect her from others to the best of my abilities and will be there whenever she needs me. She knows this – it has always been my role in her life. I am not ever going to be ready to lose my mother, but I have to learn to accept that she will not always be here. I mean, I’ve obviously always known that she wouldn’t live forever, but it will always be too soon.

2) Giggles is going to have this child while living in my house. Her doc wants her to try very hard to keep it in for another week and a half and then she is permitted to have it. Regardless of timing, though, I don’t think they are going to be out of my house before the child is born. I am going to have to come to grips with this. It’s harder than I realized, but I can do it. I’m probably going to be angry as all hell, but I think I can deal with it.

3) I need to make myself focus on my schooling. I don’t want to – I just want to hide – but I can’t afford to. I need to stop procrastinating and study. WoW will still be there when I get done with my homework. (I just started playing a few days ago and I LOVE it!) My husband will still be there, the laundry will still be there (unfortunately)…and I can’t afford to fail any more tests. I failed my first Bio test yesterday morning and have asked the prof if I can retake it because I just can’t focus. Between the lack of sleep and everything else that is going on, I’m doing good to remember my name!

4) No matter what happens, I will live. Nothing I’ve listed is going to kill me. I may feel like it. I may be seriously overwhelmed. But I have a support network – my family, my IRL friends, and the community here. Thank you everyone for your words of support and love as my world tries to crash down and I dodge the debris. It is good to know that you’re all still out there. Thank you.

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  1. Marie-Ann

     /  September 19, 2007

    oh honey. I’m so very sorry you are going through all this. You are very, very brave. I’m sending you big hugs. You are doing the best thing for your mum, it’s going to be hard, but as you said, she’s old enough to make her own decisions.. You need to talk to your doctor again about sleep meds, get him to give you something different. Sleep deprivation is awful.Keep us updated…maxx

  2. Oh sweetie, I know it is easy to say, but hang in there!!! ending you a huge Virtual HUG!!! Ok HUGS!!!

  3. I’m so sorry for all these obstacles. Ugh. And none of them are easy. Wishing you strength to held you with your mother, compasion (which you seem to have in abundance) for Giggles and the new little one, healing (for infertility), and wisdom/knowledge (for your education).


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