Unresolved issues

I just got a call from mom. The good news is that the cancer isn’t in her lungs, brain, liver or kidneys. The bad news is that they still don’t know where it is. There is something going on in the left quadrant of her body, however. There is a mass in her left breast, but they don’t know if it’s a tumor or just scar tissue from when she had breast cancer 4 years ago. They couldn’t do her MRI mammogram on Wednesday because they couldn’t get her shoulders into the machine without suffocating her. She is coming up here on Thursday to get one done – there is a cancer institute here in Boise that has WAY better machinery. So she’s coming up and will probably stay through Tuesday morning. She says “So the good news is that I’m not dying…yet”. 🙂 Go mommy and her sense of humor! Sorry I don’t have any better information for y’all, but I’m passing on what I get. Thanks so much for all the prayers and kind words of support…it means a lot to me.

On other fronts, I am trying to face the fact that my mother may not live to see me give her grandchildren. I’ve always kept in the back of my mind the idea that I might, someday, get pregnant through a miracle of nature. I know that it’s not really realistic, but it’s still a thought. Considering that I’m having a hard time still with dealing with the idea of not having children…I think I’m doing pretty well. But then I thought about mom dying and never getting to see the children I might someday have…and was almost tempted to start treatments again. IVF, IUI, adoption…whatever. Just please let me give my mom grandkids. Let them get to know her, so they don’t have to know her through stories like I did for her parents. I am not ready to start treatments again though and am not sure I ever will be again.

Yesterday I held a baby shower for Wilma. Thankfully she and Giggles were the only preggos there so it wasn’t too bad…although I was ready to kill her daughter by the time I left. In two weeks, however, life is going to SUCK. I’m holding a baby shower for Giggles on the 7th. She’s planning on inviting a bunch of girls from her school. She attends a school for pregnant girls who want to graduate but can’t go to regular school either because they are pregnant and will have to take time off, or because they had to drop out to have the child and can’t afford daycare. The school had a nursery and daycare in it, so they can still go to school. Well…you see where this is going. I’m going to be SURROUNDED by women in various stages of pregnancy. In my house. Where I can’t leave to escape. Ugh. I think I must be crazy. Oh well…I suppose I shall survive.

Ok…enough procrastinating for me. I need to go study and do some homework. Love all of you! *MUAH*

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  1. Jess

     /  September 25, 2007

    I’m “glad” to hear about your mom…good news, but uncertainty is hard, too, for sure.You’re a saint for having that shower!! 🙂

  2. I am sorry about your mom.


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